LIFE | Standards

I like to say that I'm confident in who I am as a person. I'm still trying to find footing on who I truly am, but for the most part, I know who I am and what I stand for. I have 1000x times the self confidence I had 5 years ago, despite being a lot heavier than I was 5+ years ago. 

Which brings me to this topic: why do we deem worthiness and attractiveness on what number the scale reads?

Fat women are held to a different standard when it comes to beauty. 

As as plus sized individual, I can attest to that statement because, I feel like that if I don't look like I made an effort, that I'm feeding into the social stigma of "fat people are lazy and don't care about themselves", which is such a vast and unfair generalization. I would love make up and clothes even if I was thinner, but I feel like a lot of my infatuation with it came about because I wanted to look good for society. Though I abandoned that caring a long while back, the effects of that kind of problematic thinking are long lasting.

And, though there are standards of beauty and attractiveness for fat women, I also think there is a standard in which we have to reach to even be considered a worthy human being. That shouldn't exist; just because I weigh more than you, doesn't make me any less of a person than you are. So often you see and hear "worthless" strung together with "fat" in the same sentence and it's incredibly disheartening to know that people honestly feel that way.  

How often have you heard, or even said "oh she's cute for a fat girl" or "they'd be hotter if they lost some weight"? It happens all the time and no one truly understands what kind of turmoil that can put someone through.
You don't have to dress up to be a human being, and you don't have to wear make up to be considered an attractive one. You are you, unabashedly. 

Be you.
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